The Seville Series: Physical Sexual Harassment
This unattractive man is named Jason Ewing. He is a manager at Seville in Minneapolis.
Jason thought I was attractive and made the decision to hire me after I auditioned at Seville in April 2016. When I came in the next day for orientation, Jason put his hands around my waist in the champagne room area upstairs while he and I were alone, to show me what level of contact was expected from customers. He didn't need to put his hands on me. He could have just verbally described what champagne rooms are like. That is what normal managers do-- maintain a certain level of aloofness and physical space during orientation. Jason put his hands around my waist because he was sexually harassing me.
During my first month of working at Seville, a cocktail waitress named Amber (last name unknown) came up to me while I was sitting with a customer, where she playfully grabbed my breast to get my attention and ask the customer if he wanted any drinks. Sometimes when women are in strip clubs, they think they have a free pass to grab the body parts of dancers. Many women think they can get away with this, because leftist social justice warriors have focused so much of their attention on defeating white male sexual assault that they dismiss assault when it is perpetuated by marginalized groups. To call out the predatory behavior of anyone else doesn't fit the narrative that social justice warriors want to push. I had never spoken to Amber before and was not signaling that I permitted her to touch me.
After Amber grabbed my breast, I told Jason Ewing about it during my next work shift. He said he would talk to her about it. In subsequent shifts for the next couple of months, Amber stayed away from me for the most part. Amber's work friend, a bartender named Megan Chase, proceeded to sneer at me from then on. Many people in the strip club world do not understand why a dancer would have physical boundaries and not want someone to touch her. That is because we live in a rape culture that dismisses the physical boundaries of sex workers. It is considered rude and unfriendly at Seville to resist playful flirtations from coworkers.
A few months after I told on Amber, most of the staff at Seville realized they didn't like me. This made Amber comfortable enough to start bothering me again. While I was sitting with customers, she would bend over with her ass in my face, to ask them if they wanted anything to drink. While I was engaged in lap dances, she would interrupt customers to ask them if they wanted any drinks. I had to tell Jason Ewing about it, to get her to leave me alone. I was fired a couple months later.
At arbitration with Seville, the managers they brought in to testify were ones who I hardly interacted with. Businesses can do that type of thing in arbitration, and Jason Ewing did not have to be subpoenaed. The manager at arbitration, Rayner Perez, stated that he heard Amber had caressed my thigh, rather than what she actually did. Seville's lawyer repeated that story. It was disgusting and gross to be called a liar about reporting my sexual assault from my assailant Amber, pictured below.
The threshold for sexual harassment in Minnesota is very high, because lawmakers in Minnesota are comfortable living in a predatory rape culture. That is one of the reasons why I lost on the sexual harassment claims against Seville.
In my next post, I will discuss the sexual harassment at Seville that was not physical.